PATIENCE

You cannot practice patience if you are not mindful of yourself. First, it’s important to analyze every situation you encounter and your reaction to it. When faced with discomfort, inconveniences, or challenges—an inevitable part of life—you must strive to endure them calmly, steadily, and mindfully.

What to do when patience disappears from a situation where it was once present?

Sometimes, patience seems to suddenly vanish in a situation where it had previously existed. For example, a person who is generally patient may suddenly react impatiently and intolerantly to their boss’s words or to challenges they once handled easily at work.

• You might ask, "Where did my patience go? What happened, I used to handle this so easily?"
• You should ask yourself why the motivation to endure the discomfort has disappeared—why you no longer feel the need to cope calmly with the situation.
• This suggests that you no longer believe in the situation, and you no longer see a reason to adapt and endure.
• Perhaps unconsciously, you’ve lost faith that it’s worth enduring.

In such a case, it's helpful to examine the situation closely and ask:

• "Is this really necessary for me?"
• Even though the mind may say, "I need this," if your subconscious feels that it’s unnecessary, then it may not lead to any good.
• With that, patience fades away.
• On the other hand, if we realize that the situation is inevitable, we can call upon patience.

For example, when learning a new language, it’s hard at first, and we need patience to learn. We start with one word, two, three, but can’t yet form sentences or communicate. We need patience, but we know that eventually, this will help us communicate. That’s where patience comes from.
Similarly, in other processes: if you know that a situation is unavoidable, that it cannot be changed, and that patience is required, direct your focus to the goal. If you clearly see the goal, patience will follow.